In one of her most candid interviews ever,
actress Stella Damasus opened up about her life, struggles, her first and
second marriage & what we care most about, her relationship with Daniel
Adenimokun. She said she didn't steal him and implied that when she met him, he
was already single.
Speaking with Emma Emerson of Golden Icons,
Stella Damasus opened up about her relationship with Daniel. She said;
"Let me put it this way. Let me help you hit the nail on the
head. One of the comments I have seen consistently, over and over again, is
‘Stella snatches somebody’s husband’, ‘Stella the husband snatcher’, which is
what has been going on. And I had sworn that I would never talk about it, or
even listen or stress myself about this thing but I have decided to do this
now, so that I end this once and for all.
First of all, let me paint a picture for you and you let me know
what makes sense to you. When I looked up the word snatch or steal, ehh, let’s
go to the dictionary. It means, forcefully taking something away from its
original position. Forcefully. From its original position to another position.
Something that does not belong to you. That’s what I gathered from the word
snatch or steal.
So I looked at me, Stella, and I wondered to myself, how is it
possible to go to somebody’s home, and take a man, and take his son, away from
his home and say follow me. You are a man, and according to their story, he is
happily married inside his home. With his family complete and I walk into that
home, to forcefully take a man, abled bodied man, and a kid, away from
somebody’s hand and you are there looking at me. How does that work?
Did they accuse me of using voodoo? Yes or no? They said no. Okay,
did I put a gun on anybody’s head and remove somebody from somewhere? They said
no. So logically, if people actually sit down and think about it intelligently,
how do you snatch somebody from somebody and the person is there looking at
you?
So when you see a man who has settled ties with a woman and
decides to move on with his life and you feel that there is something in this
man that you like and he likes you. I am not a kid. I am 36 years old. I am not
about to start hiding myself. I was waiting for somebody to actually ask me
this question, because all I have heard for the past two, three years are
rumours. They said, blogs said, this said.
Nobody has been bold enough to confront me and ask me. So I say,
if I steal something from somebody, and the person is really the owner of the
thing, you come and ask me, ‘you took something from me, give me back’.
But nobody was able to that. And I am like, if I meet an able
bodied man that has left and moved on. That is not even in the same house with
whoever and is not doing anything with whoever, and both parties have decided
this thing is not going anywhere, and they have gone their separate ways, why
is it that it easier for the world to blame the woman that the man has decided
to end up with?
Why is it that it is always that woman that scattered that home?
The two people that did things that nobody was there, nobody said something
must have happened between this two people but it is always somebody else that
is the problem. And I always say, I do not tolerate blaming anybody for your
own problems. I have had problems.
After my late husband’s death, I got married again and the
marriage didn’t work. After eight (8) months, it crashed. People didn’t hear
much about it, why? We were both mature to understand that we came together, we
knew that the thing was not working, instead of us to become enemies we will
remain friends, let’s just let it go quietly. And we let it go quietly. I
didn’t blame anybody else for doing it, he didn’t blame anybody else for doing
it. So I am wondering, two people come together they go their separate ways,
this one meets somebody, all of a sudden, it is that somebody that is the
problem. Did anybody ever ask, what went wrong? Why would a man pick up his son
and walk away from his marriage?
Was there anytime another woman was the problem until the man
moved on with another woman? Nobody brought up Stella’s name, then all of a
sudden, ‘oh he’s moved on with somebody else (snaps fingers), it must be her’.
How? I am still waiting for somebody to come with proof to say ‘oh when they
were still in marriage, when they were still in a house, you came and did
this.’ So the reason why I don’t like talking about it is that, there are some
things I would say to you and you would look at me like ‘oh wow’ but I don’t
want to be derogatory, I don’t want to tow the line that other people have
towed by talking bad about people.
I would never do that but the stories started coming. At first I
ignored it, I just kept quiet, and then it was all over the place, Google, blogs,
and I am like, one day, one day, I would tell my story. There’s a reason why I
am respecting certain people, respecting certain legal issues that are going
on. So there might be some things I may not hammer on, but whenever you hear
this person snatched this person’s, you will ask the person, the person that
they said was the original owner, what was the person doing when they were
snatching the person from him or her? I don’t get it. Do you understand?
So I look at it, I am not ugly, I am not dumb. Of all the men in
the world, I will now go and look for somebody else’s own and say this is the
one I want. If he didn’t come out of it and say I want to be with you and you
want to be with me, how? Why would I come and grab…? Am I that bad looking? Am
I that old?"
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