Question (Anonymous):
Hide my ID. I have a problem giving me psychological
stress which I will be so glad if u can help me solve it. I am 22years old and
a corper. I happen to b a very ambitious guy but my problem is that I have this
young girl am dating who I love so much but she keeps disturbing me to promise
her marriage for assurance. I didn't give in because I guess am still young for
that and my philosophy is to make it before getting hooked up. But this gal is
behaving somehow, I sense she is cheating on me though she is still hiding it and
anytime I confront her about it, her response is that, she doesn't know her
fate - if I will marry her or not. Am confused, I don’t wanna lose this gal and
don’t wanna get hooked up. Pls Teekay, how can I manage a relationship without
promising marriage yet, this promise of a thing has made me lose a gal before
and I don't wanna lose this one, help a broda pls.
Answer:
This is a very common situation but the
funny thing is, it is an easy situation. Let me start my saying that, the girl
is already cheating on you (very obvious).
Making a promise is kinda a big clause though but if she
already knows your plans (making it before getting hooked), then promising her
marriage should not be an issue as long as you
both are aware that there is a clause. She also needs to promise you
that she will wait for you no matter how long it takes (that might keep her
quiet).
Another thing is anybody you lose was not actually meant for
you. Yoruba people will say (Omo to ba ma pebi sun, ti won ba gbe ounje e si
ori panu, alangba ma re bo – A child that will sleep hungry, if they keep his food
in CBN vault, it is that day they would rob CBN and the food will pour sha). So
you should be glad if someone decides to leave you because it is the person
that lost out not you.
Finally, I think if you really like the girl as you claim,
then you should give her what she wants because women will keep wanting
something (even if you tell your wife that you would be working late and you
get home by 10pm, she would still ask why you came home very late)
You might gain a few things from one of my previous posts
too - http://www.askteekay.blogspot.com/2014/12/my-gf-is-7-years-older-than-i-am.html
Thanks
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Nice Work Teekay
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