Question
(Anonymous):
Please help me out here. I'm 22, I have a fiancé I adore so
much (the feeling is mutual), I noticed that he has started talking too often
about marriage recently and I'm happy about this development as he has been
showering me with so much love and attention ever since I met him over a year
ago. Now the problem is, I have an elder sister who is 25 years old and not yet
married and I feel it would be unfair to get married before her. I want to
experience the joy of planning my elder sister's wedding. Although she will
give her nod, but I don't want her to feel bad about anything at all much less
on my account. Please tell me what to do...
Answer:
Hello questioner, thank you for asking oh… this is quite a
small but sensitive case and your approach really matters.
Here is my advice (unbiased):
·
Seat your sister down and tell her your mind
while asking her for her opinion/option.
·
She will most likely advice you to go ahead but
you need to be sensitive to her countenance because it is always in the
expression not on the lips/mouth.
·
If you finally decide to have the wedding, make
sure you get all the advice from her (get her involved – even in things you
feel are unnecessary)
·
Talk to your fiance to always get her involved
too oh abeg. (and always to respect her)
·
Never ever say no to any of her advices. Even if
you won’t use it, just say OK.
·
Talk to your parents about it too and get their
consent (Parents are very ‘importanter’)
·
After your marriage, never ever talk about your
new family to your sister except she asks and even when she does ask, answer
her question as fast and short as possible)
Above all, note that your happiness is very important and
no one – I repeat NO ONE (NO EXCEPTIONs) – should decide your happiness except
you.
I hope with this few points of mine; you will be able to
make the best decision.
#ActLikeYouKnow
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